It’s definitely not a lie, life isn’t always roses and ponies. It can get hard at times and we have to cope with that. It is what we do to come out of those hard times that makes us stronger, and makes us into the people that we are.
In my life I’ve definitely have had downs, losses, life altering changes and periods that I have felt I’ve lost myself. I’ve lost family members and friends from sickness and tragic accidents, I was married and divorced at a young age, I’ve struggled with body image and an eating disorder, I’ve been harassed, I’ve had anxiety attacks, felt depressed, been broke and questioned my life decisions.
Last week my Grandma, Doreen, passed away in her sleep. It is hard to comprehend that she is gone forever but I have to continue to look forward and hope that she is at peace and in a happy place. Getting through each of these life circumstances, including smaller stresses, has made me into the stronger, determined, smarter, caring woman that I am now. Here is my approach and a few tips for overcoming the battles and bumps:
1. Be Grateful and Appreciative. Everyone has struggles, some are definitely far worse off than others and probably more worse off than yours and mine merely by the fact that I’m able to write to you on a computer and you are able to read it from anywhere in the world. Don’t disregard the trouble that you are going through but also be grateful for what you have…. My grandma lived to 86 years old and she no longer has to suffer through the dementia and pain. I have a loving and supportive family, boyfriend & dog (my family), amazing friends (also I consider family), and I get to work with inspiring people daily. I live in a safe Country/Community, and I have my health… I could go on and on…
STOP! Before reading on, think of 5 things you are grateful for, say them out loud.
Okay, now read on
2. Nourish yourself with whole foods and good nutrition. If emotional eating is something you struggle with, you’re not alone. Some eat more in response to stress while others have very little appetite (I struggle with the eating more). When we are stressed our bodies usually want foods that will give us an instant sense of pleasure, but unfortunately that doesn’t last long. We may feel immediate joy when crushing the high sugar high fat junk food, but shortly after we often feel even worse than we started – mentally and physically. A little bit is okay but don’t over do it. Keep in mind to take care of yourself, eat regular meals with lots of plant foods, whole foods and water to help keep your energy and your mood up!
3. Exercise! This is part 2 of taking care of yourself. Exercise is well known to have a positive influence on your mental wellbeing and physical health from the inside out. You don’t have to go to the gym to get some physical activity that does good things for your body, a simple walk outdoors can do wonders. I’ll often take my pup for a walk or jog when I need to clear mind and reset. Even through mourning, I have continued to teach my indoor cycle classes and do resistance training at the gym – working out has gotten me through a lot!
4. Manage stress and relax. Part 3 of taking care of yourself. The type of relaxation that works for you may be different from someone else. Don’t beat yourself over slowing down and taking a bath, going to yoga, meditating, watching a movie, reading a book, having coffee with a friend, wandering around the book store…do whatever it is that you enjoy and that helps decrease your stress.
5. Let it Out and Reach Out. Cry if you need to – I do in the shower (then I don’t have to worry about ruining my makeup). You’re allowed to be sad, mad, frustrated…whatever! The key is to not let it consume you, and definitely don’t take it out on someone else. Communicate and reach out to those you can talk to and confide in. Who knows, they may have solutions for you that you may not of thought of yourself.
7. Set goals, organize your schedule, create to-do lists and don’t make rash decisions (eh hem like buying a car you can’t afford because you’re a new divorcée). Refocus your energy from worrying and stressing to being productive. You may need to do some serious problem solving at this time, but think things through, think of where you want to be and what you need to do to get there. Write it all down and get at it! This will help reset your intentions and motivations into something that will actually benefit you and move you forward instead of letting the days pass while vegging out on the couch.
So yes I’ve been through some stuff, some bumps and hurdles, but I’ve learned from them and worked to come out on top and be grateful for my life. What helps you overcome your battles? I’d love to hear about your journeys!
Now that we got through that, I do have something exiting! I have teamed up with Raw Spice Bar for a Holiday Spice Box Giveaway. I’ve been lucky enough to experience the flavors created by the Raw Spice Bar and I’ve really been enjoying the freshly-ground, recipe ready spice blends! I love collaborating with businesses that promote high-quality ingredients in unique ways. Check out the Raw Spice Bar here. To enter this healthy holiday giveaway, check out my Instagram @nakedfacenutrition
Wishing you health and happiness!
In loving memory of Grandma, Doreen Kress